Michael DiMarco

More morality now in food choices than sex

Wed, 10 Mar 2010 16:29:15 -0600

More morality now in food choices than sex:

Why did it take me a year to find this article!

Helping a Wild Child

Tue, 09 Mar 2010 13:32:52 -0600

Imagine you get a job where you know nothing. You’re relying on your managers to show you the ropes so you don’t get overwhelmed; so the job doesn’t drown you. But after a while you notice that another employee (#2) who’s been there longer than you is getting all the managers’ attention because employee #2 is really struggling. So you keep doing what you’re doing even if you don’t know if it’s right.

Finally, employee #2 is on the right track and everything seems great to your managers. But now you start thinking about all the time they spent with him and not you. You start getting resentful. A manager comes over and scolds you for doing something wrong, and you snap back something like “oh, so now you notice I still work here?” or “well how was I supposed to know, I had to train myself!” And so there you are, thinking for yourself even if it’s wrong, thinking that only you have the right answers because no one had the time to help you as you were learning the job.

Many times when parents focus on an older child having extraordinary behavioral, physical, or emotional needs, a younger child can feel abandoned. They learn that the only way mom and dad pay attention is when there’s an extraordinary problem. So children become involuntary experts at breaking themselves to get the love and attention they need. As the old saying goes, “the squeaky wheel gets the grease.”

Life is a job; kids are new hires and parents are managers. The parent that lets their kids train themselves are going to have big problems when the teen years hit. So what to do as a manager (parent) when you’ve spent all your time on a special needs child and now your younger (former angel) child is starting to act out?

1. Take responsibility.

Forget what pop psychology tells you, it probably IS your fault. Is it really up to a child between the years of 8-12 to tell you that her needs as an apprentice human being aren’t being met? Have you ever had a boss come to you when they didn’t have to and say, “I messed up. It’s on me and you’ve had to suffer as an employee because of my decision. I’m sorry”? Didn’t that feel great? Didn’t your boss regain some respect because of it?

2. Do something RADICAL about it.

Start to love your ‘forgotten’ child RADICALLY. Go to him/her and say, “I need your forgiveness and your help. I need to become a better father/mother. Yes I know you’re only going to be here in the house until you’re 18 or so, but I’m going to be your mother/father long after that, so you investing in this process could really pay dividends in the future. Can we meet three times a week and I’ll hire you as my parenting consultant? This isn’t about you making the rules of the house, but helping me show my love for you in how I spend time, communicate, and show my love for you.” Ask them for their input on YOU and start to study the love chapter together in 1st Corinthians 13 (or our books God Guy & God Girl).

Think about it. The best way a manager can improve morale is not by throwing a party once a month, but by involving his employees in the decision-making, direction, and vision of the business. Create an environment where the employees can buy in instead of them just punching in, getting a paycheck, and waiting for something better to come along.

A know-it-all kid does not grow out of the ground. He either grows from another know-it-all or a not-at-all (around) parent. Whichever it is, change the parent and you change the child.

Brothers, we are not figure skaters

Mon, 08 Mar 2010 09:23:45 -0600

Brothers, we are not figure skaters

"If you spend your time doing the ‘dos’, you won’t have time to do the..."

Sat, 06 Mar 2010 07:19:18 -0600

“If you spend your time doing the ‘dos’, you won’t have time to do the ‘don’ts’.”

- Keith Green

Bianca Juarez suffers from "Cupidity" :)

Thu, 04 Mar 2010 11:22:31 -0600

Bianca Juarez suffers from "Cupidity" :)

"The fear of failure is rooted in our desire to be God."

Wed, 03 Mar 2010 08:56:09 -0600

“The fear of failure is rooted in our desire to be God.”

- MD

"Too many of us have a deep reverence for the creation and little for the Creator. We concentrate on..."

Wed, 24 Feb 2010 10:11:00 -0600

“Too many of us have a deep reverence for the creation and little for the Creator. We concentrate on esteeming ourselves, yet pray irreverently to a Buddy Jesus devoid of holiness.”

- MD

Hayley (not yet DiMarco) after we got caught in a rain storm -...

Tue, 23 Feb 2010 05:23:40 -0600

Hayley (not yet DiMarco) after we got caught in a rain storm - Lake Pontchartrain, New Orleans

"You didn’t hear it from me, but today is no-gossip Tuesday. Oh, shhh, shhhhh, here she comes! ..."

Tue, 23 Feb 2010 05:15:12 -0600

“You didn’t hear it from me, but today is no-gossip Tuesday. Oh, shhh, shhhhh, here she comes! Hi! Oh, nothing. Just talking about our weekend…”

"Half-hearted Christians are the most miserable people of all. They know enough to feel guilty, but..."

Mon, 22 Feb 2010 13:52:47 -0600

“Half-hearted Christians are the most miserable people of all. They know enough to feel guilty, but they haven’t gone far enough with Christ to be happy. Be wholehearted for him!”

- Ray Ortlund Sr.

Contentment in a Best-Kept Secret

Mon, 22 Feb 2010 11:15:02 -0600

For my online friends tirelessly promoting themselves through social networks, it’s time for a selah; to pause, take a breath, rest, and reason together.

I realize that publishers and marketers are telling you that you need to do this. Also realize that some of these same people were telling you that you needed to be on Second Life or create your own virtual world five years ago. Realize that my wife and I have churned out over 850,000 books over the past six years and we only have 500 FB friends and 300 Twitter followers COMBINED. More on the transactional theology of “you follow me, Il’l follow you” on Twitter in another post.

We aren’t on staff at a church, don’t have a radio show, and rarely tour or speak. We have no “platform.” Remember that if God wants you known, he’ll make you known. If you produce good books or good ideas and God wants them bought or heard, he’ll do it.

Case in point, we created an online social network for young adults that is an ad-free alternative to Facebook or MySpace and put its address in the back of our recent book releases. Basically a place to connect with us as authors and ask us questions and meet other readers like themselves that are going through some of the same stages and challenges in life. But in the past week, I’ve had to delete three different accounts where it was clear adults joined to network and market themselves.

Resist the urge to become an Amway salesman to your friends, family, and neighbors. There is no crime in being a “best-kept secret.” How many people say “Sbarro is my favorite pizza in the world. They’re in every mall!” We have more bestselling non-fiction titles for young adults in the past six years (17!) than any other publisher (let alone author.) And most parents of young adults don’t know our names.

A pastor I admire said in a blog post today:

“I am not sure why, but I have had several well-connected people tell me lately that Harvest is a ‘best kept secret.’ They tell me that a ministry making a difference as we are and planting churches, and impacting lives around the world should be ‘more well known than it is.’ Ummmm, I don’t care. I am focusing on the depth of my ministry. If God wants what we are learning to bless others, He will get the message out further. Psalm 75 says, “Promotion does not come from the east or the west; God is the judge who sets up one and puts down another.” I just don’t care about being famous or well known. Maybe God knows I couldn’t handle it, and I can’t waste my limited caring on such silliness.”

HT-James MacDonald

"Be joyfully depressed! Without depression, the topography of one’s life resembles a flat line..."

Sat, 20 Feb 2010 16:24:25 -0600

“Be joyfully depressed! Without depression, the topography of one’s life resembles a flat line with no valleys and no mountains. And a flat line, my friends, means you are dead.”

- MD

"Don’t have a faith that says anything bad that happens to you is an “attack.” Have..."

Sat, 20 Feb 2010 12:10:30 -0600

“Don’t have a faith that says anything bad that happens to you is an “attack.” Have a faith that views everything that isn’t easy as a test. No one is promoted without passing a test. Achievement is measured by your test results. God allows temptations and trials to identify the upwardly mobile. Attacks are things that happen to you. Don’t be a victim. Tests are something you willingly accept in pursuit of a degree in holiness.”

- MD

Hayley - Reading the Thoughts of Men

Sat, 20 Feb 2010 06:37:02 -0600

Hayley - Reading the Thoughts of Men

Oh no he didn’t. Ed Young Jr raps about Osteen’s...

Fri, 19 Feb 2010 12:33:35 -0600

Oh no he didn’t. Ed Young Jr raps about Osteen’s mullet and trying to “decipher John Piper”

Gold Medal Moment- Unplugged

Thu, 18 Feb 2010 10:43:59 -0600

Gold Medal Moment- Unplugged:

By far my fav vid of van2010 so far. No announcers, just the silent prep, anticipation, and execution of Lindsey Vonn’s gold medal run.

My name is Hurl

Wed, 17 Feb 2010 10:11:30 -0600

My name is Hurl

"Doubt is not a pleasant mental state, but certainty is a ridiculous one."

Tue, 16 Feb 2010 08:58:33 -0600

“Doubt is not a pleasant mental state, but certainty is a ridiculous one.”

- Voltaire

"God does not give us overcoming life— He gives us life as we overcome."

Tue, 16 Feb 2010 08:45:22 -0600

“God does not give us overcoming life— He gives us life as we overcome.”

- Chambers

Hayley & I will be on American Family Radio to talk Cupidity at 10:05 CST

Fri, 12 Feb 2010 09:44:05 -0600

Hayley & I will be on American Family Radio to talk Cupidity at 10:05 CST